12/03/2026
You see that friend of yours that always says “I’m managing”… sometimes he is not joking.
In 2018, one of my guys in Lagos used to show up at hangouts looking fresh. Clean shirt, nice shoes, always smiling. You would never think anything was wrong.
One day after everyone left, I noticed he was still sitting there. I asked him, “You no dey go house?”
He laughed and said something I will never forget.
He said, “Bro, sometimes I stay out late so my landlord will sleep before I reach house.”
I thought he was joking.
Then he explained.
His rent is due and staying late is a good way to avoid the landlord and save himself from unnecessary embarrassment.
So most nights, he would hang around bars close to his house until past midnight, just so he could quietly enter the compound.
Same guy you would see laughing and making everyone to relax during hangout.
Fast forward to today, he sent me pictures of the house he just completed for his parents.
Life can turn.
That is why I try not to laugh when someone says they are struggling.
Sometimes the strongest smiles are hiding the hardest battles.