10/08/2025
In 2023, during an expedition to South Africa. I met a young man with calloused hands and relentless eyes.
In a small township called Grabouw one evening, outside of Cape Town homed a young man I’d have the privilege of meeting. Out of sheer luck.
He journeyed to Cape Town. Working sixteen hour days for a dream and a mission bigger than himself. Making the equivalent to about $1.90-$2NZD per hour. His dream was to carve a road from a rural settlement in Nigeria connecting his family to an arterial road network. Something there wasn’t a signal from the state to do. However he just got into it. No complaints, procrastination or excuses.
We traded stories long into the night about the individual paths we’ve both walked on this planet. He spoke eloquently and poignantly, with a tone of tenacity and grit.
We spoke on things from my stomping grounds in Central Queensland as a young buck, and seeing a city fall to its knees in Earthquakes as a kid, to his passions and a defining determination to create a third alternative in life.
Between poverty and death lay his third alternative- paving a path to possibility. That was rare air to breathe and speak coming from a place like that.
That night the air was cold out, I gave him my jacket to borrow, at the end of the night I told him that jacket all the way from Wānaka is his to keep, he looked at me and told me no one had ever given him anything. S**t.
I think about him often. His hunger, his passion, his version of R&R was a Ruthless and Relentless pursuit to pull himself out.
He thanked me for my honesty, for believing in him, (I still do from 11,000 km away) he said he’d carry what I told him into the years to come.
When I do think about him I think often the best gifts ask for nothing in return. I think that night we both walked away richer. - I’d never experienced such a conversation like that. Two kids who gave each other unconditional time, from two starkly opposite worlds.
This year we’re excited to get behind the Special children’s Christmas to give back to a few young bucks.
It’s not much to put a smile on someone’s else’s face with a small gesture. When and where you can.